Come as you are! Dat is de titel van een boek van Emily Nagoski die ik op dit moment aan het lezen ben. Ik ben zo mega enthousiast over het boek en had gewild dat ik deze 10 jaar geleden had gelezen toen ik zelf worstelde met seks binnen mijn relatie. Waarom? kennis geeft nieuwe inzichten in jezelf in je gedrag en creëert een opening om anders te doen. En ik kan niet wachten om jou op een eenvoudige manier uit te leggen hoe opwinding werkt zodat jij hier jouw inzichten uit kunt halen en meer rust, helderheid krijgt over wat jou opwindt en weet dat je hier ook invloed op kunt uitoefenen en je seksleven kunt verrijken. TWEE MECHANISMEN We hebben twee mechanisme in ons die los van elkaar effect uitoefenen op onze opwinding. Onze rem, eeze wordt gereguleerd door het deel van ons ervoor zorgt dat we overleven. Daarom...
“Sex is a highway to God”, is a quote I read or heard somewhere years ago. Although I don’t belief in ‘God’ I believe there’s an Energetic Field which responds to my intention. So that’s why I replaced ‘God’ for ‘cosmos’ and felt this quote fits my like a glove, because growth makes me feel great. It doesn’t matter in which area of life. My intention for this blog is to share with you how you can use your negative sexual beliefs in order for you to grow and expand into more YOU! I’d love for you to connect more and deeper with you body, emotions, sexuality and spirit. MY PATH ISN'T YOURS Although my search for this highway to ‘God’ let me to de-armouring and the Healing Tantric path, this doesn’t mean you have to do the same. For...
When I see all those red hearts, flowers and Valentine stuff in stores I’m wondering, is there a deeper, stronger, greater and more magical form of love then self love? No, there is not if you ask me! It doesn't matter if you’re with someone or single. Self love comes in many forms, but the ultimate form of self love is self pleasure! Isn’t it? To give yourself those high vibrations of love, pleasure, joy who doesn’t want that?! I know I do! In this blog I’ll share some of my findings on self pleasure and hope to inspire you to deepen your self pleasure skills for the sake of self love! “Sexuality, just like eating, is the foundation of our pyramid's need for life and thus forms an important part of our quality of life. Self Pleasure is just like preparing a healthy meal...
Work hard. Whe you hear that do you also think 'fuck that?!'. If so this blog might interest you. I'm starting to understand more and more why 'working hard' doesn't work as well as doing less. I'm raised with the idea working hard is something to strive for. If you work hard you're worthy of life , then you deserve to be succesful. This is total BS if you ask me! I know there are plenty of people out there who figured out to be a magnet for succes. who thrive instead of survive and work hard. In this blog I'll share my most recent insights on change, why working hard doesn't always work as well. YOUR NEGATIVE SUBCONSCIOUS BODY IS RUNNING THE SHOW! Oke here's the deal. Only 5% of our thoughts and thinking is conscious, which means 95% isn't conscious. You...
When I was talking with a friend back home, she told me “You talk about sex all the time and I don’t really get you anymore these days”. This made me think am I now one of those person who talks about sex all the time?! Writing this I notice shame and judgement around admitting that I love to talk about sex. Somehow I labeled sex as something shallow, unimportant to me as a law graduate, with a career in online marketing. Today the sexual arena is actually my biggest teacher! INTELLIGENT PEOPLE TALK ABOUT WORLD PROBLEMS NOT SEX Sex sells! We all know that the porn industry is one of the biggest money making industries and uses the power of sex and sexual energy. And yet I question that we as human species understand the depths and importance of this potent suppressed energies. I definitely...
I have three questions for you. I really invite you to take time to answer before you head on to the next question. One. ‘When you orgasm, how does it feel like?’ Ready for the next? Two ‘How do you know if you had an orgasm?’ Now three, my last one ‘Do you know how to increase/infulence your pleasure? I guess answering those questions wasn’t very easy, was it? To be honest, it was kind of hard for me to answer these questions too during a workshop I did. In this blog I’ll share what Susanne Rousgaard (my super duper favorite teacher) thaught us about the elements infulencing pleasure. I call it the “Pleasure Triangle” and am happy to share this with you since it helps to get a better understanding. Elements influencing your pleasure The pleasure triangle shows us three...
G-spot, cervix, clitorris, inner lips, outer lips, vaginal opening, a-spot, p-spot, x-spot. Some of these spots you might know either mentally or you have felt them during (solo)sex. BUT! Do you know how it feels like when they are touched? I Do you know how to guide yourself and/or your partner to your sweet spots? Have you discovered and activated all your spots? I bet you might have answered no to at least one of these questions. I did too! Yoni mapping can be your friend. SYMPTOMS Here you'll find the symptoms of a de-armoured yoni. inability to experience deep yoni orgasms numb areas or total numbness in your yoni dryness lack of sensitivity no orgasms at all a need to rub the clit hard in order to climax pain during lovemaking contracted and hard inner muscles...
I believe we are ALL sensitive beings AND we are all being numbed/armoured by experiences are little or big bodies couldn’t cope with at young ages. As we grow older either we discover we have armoured ourselfs, or we continue living without really knowing. Almost all of my clients want to feel more! Sometimes they want to allow feelings AND sometimes they want to allow sensations (during sex). To really feel. In this blog I’m going to give you two tools which will make you feel more. I’m pretty sure they do. Maybe not right away but practice makes perfect. TOOL 1: YOUR BREATH The breath is the carrier of life. Your life. When you stop breathing you, your body will stop living. You’ll die. This is common sense, don’t you think. But ever thought about this? The more you breathe the...
When you’re walking the tantric path it’s a topic to come or not to come? This talk at Agama Yoga made it much more clear for me. They made the distinction between implosive and explosive orgasms. So what does that mean? WOMEN AND IMPLOSIVE ORGASMS Have you noticed as a woman that after orgasm your clitoris doesn’t want to be touched? That it becomes worse after multiple orgasms. It’s a sign you had an explosive orgasm. Another sign is you might be drained off energy after stimulation and want to go to sleep. Having explosive orgasms is not a bad thing. Tantric practioners see it as a way of losing energy, you spill it instead of keeping it in and moving it up or circling it. A small side note. For some women clitoral orgasms can be implosive with the help of edging. However, if you want to “stay...
Since I was in my mum’s belly I was rubbing my genitals just because it felt nice. So I did as a child, teenager and now as a grown woman. God, I’d like to call it cosmic consciousness, was f*cking clever to give us these sexual feelings. It’s the root of ALL creation. I don’t have to look sexy, act or dress a certain way, I’m a sexual being by default! AND I’m on a sexual awakening journey, becoming more and more conscious of myself, my body, desires, conditioning. Different sexual stages I’ve gone through to arrive here and I will describe the different stages I’ve been in for you. One thing is for sure, I’m glad where I’m at now and never do I want to go back! STAGES OF SEXUALITY The three stages I went through so far are basically the stages you go through as a...
BY MIRJAM: Last week I was sailing with my friends and had a talk about conscious sex and consent. ‘Come in for a cup of tea‘, is something we all experienced in the middle of the night. In a way it’s funny and it’s clear what it means. But if your’re inviting somebody in for a cup of tea, does it really mean something else? Is it code language for ‘let’s fuck?”. The truth is, it can mean a lot and you don’t know for sure unless you talk openly about your desires, wishes and boundaries. I call talking about this ‘conscious sex talk’. This talk is inspired by my own experience and ISTA’s elevator pitch. FEAR OF SLUTSHAMING I wish I had the courage to have a conscious talk about sex in my twenties and say something like “You’re...
“Conditioning is a behavioral process whereby a response becomes more frequent or more predictable in a given environment as a result of reinforcement.” We’re all conditioned by our surroundings in one way or another. In some areas we’re more likely to be conditioned then others. But how do you in which area’s you’re receptive and in which you aren’t? My answer Human Design. It tells you all about your defined and undefined centres. In this blogpost I’ll share something about Human Design, how open centres work and what you can do. Why? So you can be more you and live happy and free in Your Eden. HUMAN DESIGN Astrology 2.0 is my description of Human Design, based upon your time and date of birth you get your chart. Right now this method divides humanity in four...
“Listen to Sov’s choice”, was what Lody my friend, yoga teacher and hypnotherapist said to me a few months ago. She can be very persuasive. ;-) I started reading books, listen to podcasts, audiobooks AND more important I started implementing these laws. Day by day and I still do. Now with the help of these Universal Laws I’m transforming my life and business and live more and more in alignment. My intention with this blog is to inspire you to live from your place of alignment. I’d like to call that place Your Eden. It’s a place within yourself from which you love, work and live with playfulness, lightheartedness and joy. How to get there? Strengthen your connection with your body, emotions and sexuality! WHAT’S THE LAW OF ATTRACTION? There are seven universal laws....
Veel mensen vragen aan mij, ‘goh Mirjam wat is dat nu eigenlijk de-armouring?’ In de korte versie omschrijf ik het als een combinatie van massage en drukpunten om het lichaam blokkadevrij(er) te maken. Vandaag wil ik mijn uitgebreidere versie van wat ‘armour’ en ‘de-armouring’ voor mij is met jullie delen. Wat is armour? Om een beter begrip van de-armouring te krijgen, wil ik eerst uitleggen wat er met ‘armour’ bedoeld wordt. Sommigen verwarren armour met amour. Het eerste is letterlijk vertaald ‘harnas’ en het tweede ‘liefde’. Ieder mens heeft armour in het lichaam. Dit doet zich voor in de vorm van spanning in de spieren, het spierweefsel en nestelt in je energetisch lichaam. Steeds wanneer we onder stress staan, komt er spanning op ons lichaam zodat...
Ever wondered about the ways your yoni can be entered? No? I know I didn’t for a long time! For me there was just one way. My partners entered me whenever they thought I was ready. They initiated and I was the one who (silently) said yes and didn’t always check in with my body. This is the masculine way of entering a yoni. The partner/penetrator is taking initatieve and is doing. That was the only way I knew for a long time. Until de-armouring found me. In this post I describe the female approach and how this helps you to step into YOUR POWER You're no vicitim, you're a powerful creator. The creator of Your Eden and this practices helps you to tap into that SUPERPOWER. YOUR CHOICE I belief it’s about time women started learning the female approach when it comes to entering the...
During Phoenix Rising, a healing tantra retraite i dit with House of Tantra, I had my First Yoni Puja! A puja is a ritual to honer the devine. The goal of this puja was to purify the yoni and honor the goddess within. This was such a wonderful experience, I wish for every woman to be honerd in such a beautiful way. In my case this puja was part of a retraite and guided by the teacher, but I can imagina you can also do this with your man at home. In this blog, I'll share some practical info so you can do it yourself. The ritual and practical things we did We all started in a circle. Women in the inner circle staying seated every blessing they received, men in the outer moving one position to the right after they gave their blessing. I never did a yoni puja and was amazed by the effect it had on my....
A little while ago I wrote a post that I didn't feel so much into my centre after making love with my boyfriend. Now I could tell the difference because I hadn't seen him for two weeks. It was just as if I wasn't fully there, not fully me anymore. And what are the odds, my friend Kim, who's studying to be a Kundalini Teacher shared what Kundalini is saying about this. Auric imprint for life "The positive aspect of the auric imprint is that it helps to strenghten the bond between the couple. The female carries the subtle essence of the male her whole life. There's also a disadvantage to this situation. When a woman slept with a man, her aura has been imprinted by different energies. These imprints can impact her aura and her search to connect with her own identity. Men also get this imprint but...
Wil jij onze geheime liefde weten? Wij zijn fan van onze YoniDelight en krijgen nog wel eens de vraag. “Wat moet je met zo’n groot, koud, hard, ding? Ze is geen vibrator en geen doorsnee dildo?!” Klopt, dat maakt haar juist zo speciaal! Om je wat inspiratie te geven, delen we graag onze tips en ervaringen met je. En onthoudt het zijn ideeën. Niets moet, alles mag. Ga vooral zelf op onderzoek uit, want goede seks begint bij jezelf. # 1 Ontwikkel je skills van zelfbevrediging ‘zonder doel’ Klaarkomen, ik weet precies wat ik moet doen om mezelf tot een hoogtepunt te brengen. Om eerlijk te zijn is het best fijn om stoom af te blazen, maar heel romantisch, vurig en gepassioneerd is anders. Als het om bevrediging gaat, meet ik met twee maten realiseer ik me nu. Shame on me! De...
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